HOW DO YOU STOP ED HABITS IN THEIR TRACKS?
“What would have helped you change ED behavior sooner?” ❤️ I asked this in my Instagram stories yesterday and you guys had soooooo much to say on the topic. It was epic 😌🙌🏼
So I took everything you guys said and shared my thoughts on it in today’s Instagram post (below).
In 2014, I didn’t know I was heading into uncharted ED territory. I thought I was pursuing “health” and simultaneously gaining the body I had always wanted. (Pshhhh, you guys know it’s never that simple). So NOW, when I see that photo, I want to scream so loudly and say, “why couldn’t you have just stopped there?! You had everything!!!” 😫 But I know I didn’t have everything. I didn’t think that was good enough.
For 2 more years, I kept pushing and pushing until there was so little of my mind and body left that I didn’t even know who I was anymore. Read about how I recognized my ED behavior here. Restrictive dieting became my only identity. So, what would have helped me recognize my self-destructive behavior sooner? 🤔
4 WAYS TO STOP ED BEHAVIOR BEFORE IT GETS WORSE
1️⃣ YOU HAVE TO WANT IT
The first step to stopping ED behavior is that YOU have to be ready to change. There is no one that can convince you to eat more, exercise less, take care of yourself if you don’t want to 😬 YOU HAVE TO WANT TO. But at the same time, there is so much you can do to move the needle in the direction of recovery, health, and happiness 👇🏼
2️⃣ GET INSPIRED BY THE RIGHT PEOPLE
Follow women who share their recovery stories (the present, past, good, and bad). This is beyond helpful because it builds YOUR confidence to know that recovery is possible. It’s not about reinventing the recovery wheel, it’s about getting guidance from someone who has come out on the other side a strong and happier woman 🥰 It’s why I’m here talking about this and created these free resources for you.
And to spread the love, some of the ladies I consistently follow on Instagram that talk about recovery, body positivity, and mental health are @ownitbabe @maryscupofteaa @thewellnecessities and @whollyhealed. Seriously, find someone you relate to and follow their journey. It’s SO helpful.
3️⃣ MAKE IT SIMPLE
Start where it’s easiest for you. I don’t think I’ve ever shared this tip before, but it makes so much sense. Personally, the easiest thing for me to do was to stop exercising. And I did that successfully for more than a year because I got injured (which made it incredibly challenging and painful but also eye-opening) That was a HUGE wake up call for me ❤️ Once I stopped exercising and started to unravel what I had been putting myself through the past few years, I realized the next thing I had to tackle was food. For you, it might be deleting the calorie counting app on your phone, getting rid of your gym membership, or to stop labeling yourself as a follower of a specific diet.
4️⃣ GET SUPPORT
Get support. For real, this is not optional. Talk to your parents, friend, partner (so many of you named your boyfriend as your rock in this journey since he knows you so well), and don’t discount medical professionals. Talk to a doctor, therapist, the NEDA. Whatever YOU need to get better. There’s always a way to get help.
TAKEAWAY: UNDERSTAND YOUR ED BEHAVIOR
And I totally get it. Not everyone wants to be “enlightened” about diet culture and it can absolutely take a while to get into “recovery mode”. Sometimes people have to learn the hard way about health vs. a goal body image (I know it took me more than 2 years to get some real clarity).
And what do you do if you know someone else going through this? You can’t always change someone else’s POV or their goals, no matter how hard you try. You can only control YOU. But what you 100% can do is support them. Be there for them. Don’t shove what “you know and they don’t” down their throat (not that you would, but be aware that it might come across that way). Instead, be there, be a role model, be a friend, so that when they need you they have someone they can trust to guide them through the pain and into growth ❤️