Hi friend! Making mistakes is never fun (I totally get that)… but you can LEARN from those mistakes and use the lesson to HEAL your relationship with food 🙂 Now that’s pretty cool!!!
Do you have unrealistic expectations?
I know I for sure did…
I thought that I could heal my relationship with food wayyyy faster than humanly possible. Yup, I was holding onto the idea that I could do it all immediately. That I’d never struggle, and that I could flip a switch and magically… everything would be better. But these are unrealistic expectations… and they were definitely holding me back from Food Freedom!
FINDING FOOD FREEDOM IS A PROCESS
We want it all, right this second, with no mistakes. But it’s just not possible! It takes practice, time, dedication, and LEARNING from your mistakes in order to truly recover and heal your relationship with food.
But I know that it’s probably one of the hardest things to do, ever.
But, if we just accepted that the recovery process isn’t a straight line to success and that each bump and squiggle along the way is just a lesson that we must learn in order to move forward, we would be able to see…
- How far we’ve *already* come.
- How much we’ve already grown.
- How AMAZING we already are.
So in the rough moments, remember this: mistakes are an essential part of the process. Don’t hate mistakes, use them to empower your journey and be stronger and kinder to yourself every single day… If you can do this, every mistake will bring you one step closer to Food Freedom!!
HOW TO HEAL YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH FOOD
1. ACCEPT THE PROCESS
Food Freedom is a winding road, but honestly, that’s the best part! The winding road relieves the pressure to be perfect. You aren’t perfect, I’m not perfect, and the process to heal your relationship with food isn’t perfect either. We have to accept that we’re going to make mistakes and struggle, at times. Because in that acceptance, we prevent mistakes from sabotaging our journey. As a health coach, I’ve spoken with hundreds of women who are all working on this very same process. And form my own personal journey, I know this to be true in my own life:
The people who struggle the most, are the ones that hate making mistakes.
The very reason most of us struggle is that we’re fighting our own actions, mindset, and beliefs. We have unrealistic expectations that we can find Food Freedom without making any mistakes… but when we do that, we make the BIGGEST mistake of all. Thinking we won’t make mistakes or won’t need to struggle (especially after we’ve been doing well in our recovery process for a while) sets us up to be crushed when we accidentally take a step backward in our journey. But if we knew and accepted that eventually, we would make a mistake again, we would be able to move forward without being crushed because we “messed up”. If we accept the learning process and accept that mistakes WILL happen, we can more quickly and easily dust ourselves off and pick up right where we left off!
So, if you want to stop struggling in the healing process, you MUST accept that mistakes will be made. Like…
- You’ll accidentally fall into a binge again.
- You’ll start following food rules.
- You’ll choose restriction instead of freedom.
It will happen… but only for a moment! If you know mistakes happen, you can accept them, respect them, and see them as an opportunity to learn… instead of them being something negative – and that’s a game changer!!! So remember: if you never make mistakes, you’ll never have the opportunity to learn and grow from them!
2. ASK EMPOWERING QUESTIONS
If you truly want to heal your relationship with food, it’s not enough to brush off your mistakes… you have to learn from them! So, if you want to find Food Freedom (for real!!!) you must do step 2! After you’ve made a mistake, the most important thing you can do is take a moment to evaluate what happened. And my favorite way to learn and grow is to ask myself empowering questions.
My favorite empowering questions are in my binge eating recovery workbook (in my library of free resources)! But some examples of empowering questions are:
- What led me to this mistake today?
- Is this truly a mistake?
- What is the lesson I learned from this?
- How can I prevent it from happening again in the future?
- When do I struggle the most with this?
- Why is this a persistent challenge for me?
- Is the solution really what I need most right now?
- Where can I go from here to feel better?
- Who can I lean on if this happens again?
- When should I try something new?
These questions are so POWERFUL!!! They make you evaluate your “mistakes” (which are really just lessons in disguise!) and they are ESSENTIAL… if you want to heal your relationship with food and find Food Freedom! If you don’t give yourself the opportunity to learn from the experience, you’re losing the opportunity to turn something negative… into something positive! So EMPOWER yourself with questions that heal your relationship with food. And love yourself enough to find Food Freedom!
3. LEARN FROM YOUR MISTAKES
After asking yourself empowering questions, which you can do using these free workbooks, the best way to heal your relationship with food is to start LEARNING from those mistakes. It’s not enough to say hey, I have all this knowledge now so that’s enough… nope! You have to continue to practice. But good news… because you evaluated your mistakes with empowering questions, you’re starting to shift your mindset about what mistakes actually mean.
If you’ve been paying close attention, you know mistakes aren’t really mistakes… they’re just more opportunities to learn! Which is why making mistakes isn’t a bad thing – it’s a necessary and essential part of finding Food Freedom. So, if you want to heal your relationship with food, making mistakes is going to be a normal part of the learning process!
The great thing about the empowering questions from step 2 is that they shift your mindset. And your mindset is the powerhouse of your recovery journey! Once you shift your mindset, your new thoughts become beliefs, and then these beliefs become actions! So, by starting to learn from your mistakes and asking empowering questions, you will automatically start to LEARN from those mistakes and heal your relationship with food! How awesome is that?!
TAKEAWAY: LEARN FROM YOUR MISTAKES!
Instead of beating yourself up for making mistakes, take advantage of the opportunity and learn from them! The most important things you can do are: accept the process, ask yourself empowering questions, and learn from your mistakes!
Wishing you all the Food Freedom!
xoxo Bree 🙂
Did you learn something today? You might be interested in finding Food Freedom! Using the 3 strategies in this free workshop I crushed restriction and binging for LIFE! I’m sharing my best tips for healing your relationship with food (including lessons from my experience with orthorexia, binge eating, over exercising, body image, weight gain, weight loss, and restrictive dieting). In this workshop, you’ll learn how to create your own customized Food Freedom strategy that works for YOU.