Your happiness should not depend on if you eat [insert food] today. Why? Because restrictive dieting thoughts make you unhappy, it’s that plain and simple.
I shared this post today on my Instagram and SO many of you guys shared your food fears with me. We all wish that they didn’t impact our happiness, but they do, BIG TIME. So what do we do to fix it?
REALITY: RESTRICTIVE DIETING THOUGHTS MAKE YOU UNHAPPY
“I ate bread today, therefore I am unhappy.” Confession: I 100% used to think like this (and occasionally still do) #honestyisthebestpolicy. And this thought process is exactly what popped into my head last night as I was falling asleep.
My immediate feels were “😬” because sometimes I can’t believe how ridiculous it is + “🤨” because how the heck could BREAD have such an immediate and drastic impact on my mood?
3 WAYS I CONQUERED RESTRICTIVE DIETING THOUGHTS
And I have some answers for you:
1️⃣I REALIZED I WASN’T BEING RIDICULOUS, I WAS BEING HUMAN
I’m not ridiculous at all (so don’t feel bad if you have these thoughts too ❤️) And I need you to know that old thoughts like this STILL pop into my head on occasion. Did you hear that?! The goal is not to never have these restrictive dieting thoughts ever again, it’s simply unrealistic. And because I’ve learned to recognize the thoughts and NOT act on them, it doesn’t bother me anymore‼️
It’s expected that these will pop into my head from time to time, so instead of holding onto them and beating myself up for having them, I just let them leave my brain. Having these thoughts on occasion, even 2 years into recovery and food freedom is 100% normal. It’s a pattern I’ve recognized in myself (especially when I’m feeling stressed or anxious) because that’s how I used to control my stress and my life: through food. 👉🏼 Light bulb💡 moment anyone⁉️
2️⃣I UNDERSTOOD WHY THE THOUGHTS WERE THERE IN THE FIRST PLACE
I conditioned myself to think that “bad foods” were at the root of all my problems. And since my number one priority in life was to lose weight and be super skinny, I understand how I became incredibly blind and taken advantage of by my own goals. In my mind, 👉🏼 eating carbs = weight gain = unhappy Bree. Therefore, eating bread made me unhappy 🤦♀️🤷♀️
And even if it wasn’t bread, maybe you felt the same way about sugar, dairy, grains, meat, carbs, etc. or all of the above 🙃 The point is, if you’ve been a restrictive dieter, you know how destructive thoughts like this can be. And on the same note, below is exactly what you guys told me you were most afraid of.
3️⃣ I TOOK RESPONSIBILITY SO I COULD FIND HAPPINESS
Being afraid of eating bread (any of my fear foods) WAS at the root of all of my problems. Why? Because I made it the root of all my problems!!!
The biggest thing I do know to help myself is that I take responsibility for what happened to me. I refuse to be a victim of “society’s beauty standards” and “diet culture” (it’s okay if you disagree). But why would I do that? And it’s for a very simple and important reason. BECAUSE IF I’M IN CONTROL OF IT, I CAN FIX IT.
On the flip side, if I don’t take any responsibility and blame it on things I can’t immediately and realistically change, like society’s standards and diet culture, then it will always be out of my hands. Not cool. And below is exactly what I had to say on the subject in my Instagram stories.
TAKEAWAY: FOOD FREEDOM STARTS BY CHANGING YOUR THOUGHTS
And since I’ve stopped restrictive dieting and binge eating + healed my relationship with food, NOW I CAN EAT BREAD (and whatever else I want) AND FEEL HAPPY ABOUT IT ❤️🥰😁 I mean, that’s the whole point right?! The fact that YOU CAN FIND FOOD FREEDOM after it all 🙌🏼 You don’t have to be trapped by restrictive dieting thoughts forever. And to help you get there, you can grab my free resources right here✨
Leave me a comment below 👇🏼 how do you wish your food fears made you feel? And did you have a light bulb moment today?! ☺️
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